I Want to Feel Emotionally Safe Again

Have you been hurt deeply by someone and that hurt left an open wound? Maybe the wound healed and there’s a scar reminding you of that pain.

If you have trusted someone with deep parts of who you are this is for you. If you unconditionally loved and that love was abused or taken for granted this is for you. If you let your guard down in kindness and you experienced betrayal or harm this is for you.

Sometimes you do all you can to live in an honorable manner. You give and serve in ways that are not self-seeking. You pray and uplift your community. You would give the shirt off your back if you felt the need to do so. Yet this world is still cold. There are still people that will take advantage of your goodness. But fear not, Isaiah 41:10 the Lord is with you and even when it’s challenging he will uplift you with his strength.

fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

There’s nothing wrong with who you are. If you are kind, if you love hard, if you forgive over and over, don’t change that about yourself. You’ve just got to start pouring that into places that can receive it and honor it better.

Learning to heal from past hurts is a journey and for some a life journey. The goal isn’t to overcome that which hurt you, it’s to live with Gods goodness inside of you in-spite of who hurt you. What does that look like?

It looks like the sins of the world hanging stretched wide, slashed, beaten, broken on the cross. It looks like crying out saying:

“Father forgive them, for they know not what they do.” ~ Luke 23:34

Forgiveness sets you free. Being self-controlled sets you free from the anger that consumes you. The pain you feel is absolved by Christ. You don’t have to carry it anymore. Sometimes we still carry the hurt because we aren’t ready to forgive but the truth is forgiveness is healing you from the inside out.

You will learn to feel emotionally safe by taking back the power you gave away to the one who hurt you. They don’t deserve to hold power over you. Forgive yourself for whatever you keep blaming yourself for and forgive them. Not because they apologized or admitted to the errors of their ways. Forgive them because you deserve peace! This is where emotional safety begins.

There’s more work to be done practically like boundary setting, saying no, standing up for self etc. but the journey starts with forgiveness. Don’t attach your worth to the offense, attach it to the cross. He died for his love for you! Your worth is in Him. Search Him when the pain is heavy. He endured a pain we will never understand and he loves us unconditionally despite the transgressions of the world.

Prayer Heavenly Father I feel deeply hurt, you were there even when I couldn’t feel you near. You never left my side even when I felt utterly alone. When darkness took over you beamed a light of hope inside me to survive past my pain. Thank you Lord for your grace and mercy. I’m still navigating this hurt but I know you have restorative power. Heal in me what feels broken and help me find a way to forgive so that I may have peace. I’m afraid to be emotionally vulnerable but I know who you called me to be so help me rediscover the woman you designed me to be in my mothers womb, for you knew me before I knew myself. Your purpose is greater than I can understand. Father give me relief from the weight I carry and help me live according to the call you have given. ~ Amen